Tonight I’m looking at a photograph taken in a shopping mall years ago; my father, my stepmother, and my two children lined up before the camera like captive soldiers. It occurs to me that this is the only picture I have of them all together.
They are bundled up in coats and hats, almost smiling. Lit wreaths gleam in the background. The irony. My father did not celebrate holidays, would likely not approve. Yet here I am, so many years later, in my lap, the Christmas card never sent.
I remember how early the darkness came. Long noisy bus rides home from school in winter, walking in the front door at four o’clock, sometimes later – the light outside nearly gone. Inside, the house was warm and smelled of the wood stove, occasionally molasses if grandma had just baked a fresh batch. Sometimes she’d let me sample one before dinner, while the cookies were still warm and soft, the sweet molasses and gooey raisins melting against the roof of my mouth. Sometimes I still smell them, taste them, though it’s been over thirty-five years since my tongue and those last crumbs parted ways.
I left on an early summer day in 1989, knowing I wouldn’t be back, at least not to stay. Maybe Grandma knew it too. Maybe not. Either way, she would have given no hint, made no mention. It wasn’t her way. She was a creature of the moment, filling every hour with her palpable presence – the house, the kitchen, especially that little kitchen, glowed with a warmth that burns my memory.
An earlier version of this poem first appeared on spillwords.com. in September of 2023.
That day, in a glass-enclosed elevator, squeezed in like a school of fish rising 775 feet to the top of the swaying tower, a slyly grinning man explained to us how it had to do that so as not to snap apart. Everyone laughed nervously. I shuttered and covered my eyes with my hands. My mother clutched my shoulder, calmly remarking on the view – Niagara Falls veiled in mist, I suppose, though I wouldn’t know because I refused to look. Minutes later, the elevator came to a stop. The doors slid open. We stepped out onto a cold windy deck and touched the sky.
Three little words spray painted on a fence. Far from the only words there, but the only one’s to catch my eye. So whoever you are, why did you do it? I just wanted to walk today without overthinking. Now I’m tangled up in that question and others. Beyond basic survival instincts, why do we get out of bed at all? Do what we do? Any of us? For Profit? Love? Recognition? What if it all boils down to three jagged little words in the end, whether uttered, scrawled, or screamed?
The word alone makes me squirm. My eyes begin to cross. My skull throbs in time with my heart – two heavy bass drums. Flashcard memories torture my brain – precarious classroom moments frozen in front of a blackboard, sweaty fingers fisting the chalk, scratching, erasing, scratching, erasing. Equations I cannot solve. Numbers. Graphs. Symbols. Decimal points… Mathematics. My kryptonite. My nemesis. Cold. Glaring. Calculating, so very, very calculating, yet never adding up to anything.
The apples, the berries, the pears, the glossy foldout ad. Later, the dubious walk through the grocery store aisle with your crumpled little list and your wobbly wheeled cart.
It’s odd when you think about it, what’s actually being sold – enhanced product photography, rich studio lighting, all those screaming sirens of color – how the finest images are almost always wrong.
As far as we could see, endless horizon, roaring ocean surf beating back the shore. You sat on a bench in a pretty summer dress smiling up at me while I positioned the camera –
dream house high in the background, jagged coastline outstretched in the fore, bleach denim sky draped over it all.
Cool salty air filled our lungs, our pockets hung heavy with those smooth damp stones we’d plucked earlier from the beach. Then, the moment the sun bowed behind a cloud, I clicked the shutter release, and held it all in my hands.
The sun splits through the black of a passing storm. The trees pour down on us while we walk, even though the rain has all but stopped. The river runs high. We stroll along beside its hyper current, her and I. She buries her nose in the wet grass while I study an uncertain sky, still ominous to the west, grumbling thunderous threats, yet all is calm here on the ground, washed clean of everything but dog and man.
Sometimes I still see her out there, waist-deep in water, alone and waiting – one bright afternoon long ago. She is looking up at me on the old tire swing as I soar out high overhead, hands cupped around her eyes, wet hair glistening in the summer sun.
“Don’t look down. Just close your eyes and let go!”
I do as she says and seconds later I’m tumbling out of the sky like a man without a parachute, all arms and legs, kicking and flailing, before an ugly splash landing into dark cold water.
She meets me at the surface with laughter, high fives. I sprint back up the muddy bank for another go, only this time my hands slip off the rope too soon. Falling backward, I plunge in headfirst and sink. My mouth full of water, my breath dead in my throat, I grope for a surface I cannot find before feeling a firm tug on my arm. And when I open my eyes to a flood of dazzling light, I’m staring into the grinning face of an angel and a friend.
I pass that place nearly every day on my way to someplace else – once the home of a woman and her young child until they were senselessly murdered one night by someone they may have trusted.
A plaque and banner face the street displaying the names of the two victims, “gone but not forgotten.” The balloons and stuffed toys, however, have long disappeared, and the house is a darker shade of gray these days, or, is it the same?
People are living there again, new tenants whose floral curtains billow in the upstairs windows. Yes, of course, they know what took place there, but a roof is a roof and walls are walls, however sturdy, indifferent, and unmoved by their history.